Well from a religious standpoint, I have never read a bible that states "And he/she who loveth another man/woman shall be sent to everlasting torment." Or anything even vaugely like that. And also, while I dont worship god, if he does exist (and I am fairly ceartin he does), and he loves mankind so much, why would he punish someone for finding someone they enjoyed being with. Love is blind. How can it be sinfull to find pleasure in being with another person? As for why people become gay, I really think it is sort of a random factor. You cant tell if a baby will grow up to be gay. You dont bump into a gay guy, or a lesbian, and wake up the next morning a homosexual. I am bi, with slightly more gay leanings, but the reason I feel equal attraction for both genders, is because I was brought up taught that there is nothing wrong with that. My aunt is a firm beleiver that gays are going to hell, but both of my parents are fine with it. I have meet a couple gay people, and a lesbian or two, and there is nothing different about them then about us/you. We learn the same, can do the same things, and are exactly like you, just they like people of the same gender.
You have to look at it from the perspective of the Christian and the perspective of the non-Christian.
From the perspective of the Christian:
The Christian bible does actually forbid homosexuality explicitly. "You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination" (Lev. 18:22 ). Now, this is in the Old Testament; one can argue that Christians take things like forbidding sexuality and the ten commandments into account while ignoring things like animal sacrifices, but that is not true to them. To Christians, Jesus gave them a new covenant that fulfilled the prophecies of the old testament, thearby eliminating the relevance of this old covenant. Violence is no longer used, but Christians still must abstain from sin.
To Christians, marriage is intended for a man and a woman, so that they can follow God and procreate. The only way to procreate is if marriage is between a man and a woman; to Christians, that's why there are corresponding parts. Christians do not believe that, even if two men or women love each other and act according to God in every other way, they should be married. Arguing that homosexual men and women are like everyone else, and therefore that constitutes righteousness, does not apply. This is because it takes just one sin to be a sinner, and therefore separate a sinner from non-sinner. That being said, sins can be forgiven if one acknowledges those sins to God. God is all-loving, not in the sense that he loves everything you do, but that he will always welcome you with open arms if you recognize that you sinned and relinquish it.
Arguing that you felt attraction to both genders based solely on the fact that you were brought up in an environment where homosexuality wasn't condemned is actually bad for your case, because this suggests that homosexuality is learned and brought out by the environment. Some Christians may then condemn this because they may believe that if you were brought up with the idea that homosexuality is wrong, you may have become straight. Most would believe that you are putting your own personal satisfaction ahead of morality.
From the perspective of the non-Christian:
The government shouldn't base its moral values on Christian values, nor any other religion. All people are equal, no matter their race, wealth, sexuality, etc, because we are all human beings. There is nothing wrong with who you love, so long as you love and cherish and respect that person with all your heart.
While man and woman were designed
to procreate, that does not forbid humans from sexually satisfying themselves in other ways, so long as it doesn't infringe on another person's intentions. Marriage is about love and honoring each other, no matter what gender each other is. Love is blind, as you said. Since the government protects the rights of all people, it is the civil right of any citizen to marry any other citizen (so long as they are of age).
The bible was written at a time when procreation was important (the society being largely agrarian). In today's world, procreation is not nearly as needed (in fact, some places suffer from over-population), and homosexuality can even be argued to be suited for this type of environment, as a homosexual couple cannot produce babies and can therefore adopt them from other impoverished places. Acting upon homosexuality can stop unwanted pregnancies for that person, in this way.
If one does believe in God, one cannot argue that God loves everyone the same. Jesus said nothing concerning homosexuals, so therefore, why is it a sin?
Homosexuality may be biologically or environmentally caused. It is natural for some humans to feel homosexual thoughts, and if it doesn't cause harm to anyone, why is it wrong? Why should any government care about who you sleep with or pleasure yourself, if it does not harm anyone? Homosexuality may be both a birthed instinct and/or a choice. Either way, it is not a grounds to discriminate on. A relationship can bring happiness and productivity whether heterosexual or homosexual (or whatever else there might be). One's sexual life is one's own.
I wrote this just because, whether or not you (referring to a collective you, as in 'one') think another person's opinion is absolutely ridiculous or the opposite, I believe it is necessary to look at things from all
perspectives. I believe it is necessary to listen to all of a case before nitpicking at details or constantly emphasizing your own opinion. This is something that everyone, including myself, is guilty of from time to time, and I think we'd all grow collectively if we learned about each other. I don't understand how a person can call a Christian ignorant when they themselves have the ignorance to not understand where Christians are coming from. That would be like going to China and expecting to converse with the locals in English. You have to understand the language, and then you can converse.
Back to homosexuality. I believe that it is a combination of biological and environmental factors that give rise to your sexuality. I wonder though what would happen in a world where the majority shifted to homosexuality. Would something in our minds change so that we suddenly see the opposite sex as desirable, considering the population damage that would arise? Or would we see sex as both an act of pleasure and an act of utility. Would women be required to have children? Would society then again shift to the exclusive advocacy of heterosexual behavior? Would something change in our minds, mental blocks so to speak, making homosexuality more difficult to discover?
On the same note, what would happen in an overpopulated society? Would homosexuality be glorified in movies and television shows, society in general, to avoid more pregnancies than society could sustain? Or, would abortions and birth control become required or encouraged?
You have to wonder though...how many people have had positive homosexual thoughts only to be conditioned by the mind and society that these thoughts were wrong? How many people have found satisfaction with the opposite sex after being conditioned that homosexuality was wrong? Have homosexuals ever felt love for the opposite sex, hetero for the same, only to omit it because of exclusivity?
There are definitely more bisexuals than we think there are, but these are all just terms. We as humans love to categorize things. Had there only been the word "love" in the language, instead of "homo," "hetero," etc, who knows what people would be known to be attracted to. The societal variable is almost impossible to remove from any experiment or study done today, so we can only ponder these questions in discussions like these.
I often wonder why we don't separate the many meanings of love. Love for a family member. Love for a friend. Love as a sexual attraction. With this linguistic anomaly, we place equivalent importance on all of these because they are all one word, unless of course we have to explain ourselves. But still, love is a single word in our culture. It also poses difficulty with the question: Is sexual attraction synonymous with love? It can be. They can also be unique.
I brought this up because I also want to know. Can a homosexual man still love a woman? In the future, or even today, is sexual attraction (this kind of love) so mutual and unique that it must lead to a relationship of love, to marriage? When one is attracted to another person, is one only motivated by a subtle liking or a desire to have intercourse? Must a relationship have intercourse, or is there a difference between a sexual relationship and a non-sexual relationship (when involving couples). Will it ever be accepted in the future to separate the sexual and non-sexual parts of one's love into two different relationships, or two different processes? When our minds become less enclosed by societal traditions, will we discover and accept even more radical ideas than what we hear today?
It really all comes down to this. What is sexuality and what is love? What creative ways will we discover in the future that allow us to express the two, whether together or separated?