... but I like to be able to distiguish between talking about a male, female, etc. It's the same as identifying someone as white, black, or asian.
And do you think language should force you to say if someone is white, black, or asian?
I'm not saying we need to do away with the ability to identify male and female, but rather that we need to make it something that the language does not force you to do. It may be a useful piece of information when you are trying to identify someone, but you can always specifically specify such things when it's necessary. Essentially what I'm saying is that male/female should be the same as white, black, short, tall, heavyset, and so on; you can specify them as necessary but they are not an integral part of talking about someone.
Could you imagine if the language forced you to identify people as fat or thin the way it does with male/female? "Tim met thin mother at the store. Thin invited fat to dinner on Thursday."
The problem with that example is A) You're either saing that Tim has more than one mom, meaning you would need some other way to be more specific than saying "mother". Though, you'd most likely know their names and should use those instead. B) The second sentence is treating "thin" and "fat" as nouns, when they are not. You couldn't even use he or she because it still wouldn't make sense and leave the listener wondering "who's inviting who to dinner?" You would still need something more descriptive like "Tim's mom invited Becky to dinner". That's assuming we're still talking about Tim's mom. So yeah, I can't imagine those kinds of things being used to identify a person during normal conversation.
No offence to these people, but as I [am a] straight male, I feel cheated if I'm looking at what I think is an attractive woman and find out it's a guy.
So what if you do? Why should other people be forced to change how they present themselves in order to make you happy? And unless your intention is to start a romantic or sexual relationship with this person, it's an irrelevant bit of information anyway.
And Narei, you're looking for their sex and sexual orientation, not their gender.
... And the only other place where one's sex is important (and is in fact much more so there than here IMO) in relevant biological and medical contexts.
I think you guys are reading too much in to what I said. First off, I didn't say anyone has to change how they present themselves to make me happy. There's a difference between tolerance and acceptance. I can tolerate something, but that doesn't mean I have to agree with it. If people in this thread can have the opinion that they don't like having gender specific qualities, I can have the opinion that I like people that do. Trying to call me out on that, I think, says more about you than it does about me.
Yes, human nature attracts us to what we find pleasing. For the vast majority of people, that is likely to come down to how they look, even if it's not the only thing someone is attracted to another for. There's nothing wrong with that. It's not ok to down right oogle someone, male or female, if they don't want that attention, but I'm sure most people at some time or another will see someone and think "Oh he/she is cute" off handedly. If they turn out to be something other than they presented, like my aforementioned feminine male example, it does shock your brain. It doesn't even have to be a sexual thing. I used to work customer service and if I were to see someone that looks like a woman or man, I'd address them as such. It comes back to my original point. It's s sign of respect to address someone as ma'am and sir and I would use them, not "Is there anything I can help you with, person?"