I don't really feel a need to "come out" I'm bi with a strong pref for femeninity. A man with lots of muscles and six pack abs is about as attractive to me as a woman like that.
I like a person who is small, thin not especially "shapely", long hair and soft facial features. If these traits show up in either a man or a woman I could find either of them attractive.
Having said that however, I do display some asexual traits. I'm awkward around those I find attractive and so I don't feel comfortablee talking to them. I'm a natural submissive so I like them to make the first move, but most folk like the same so no one talks.
But as much as I enjoy the company of others I like to be alone too. I cherish my solitude a lot. It's a strange thing to try and explain that I enjoy being
alone but hate being
lonely.
I'm also very interested in crossdressing but have yet to go out in public dressed as a woman. A lot of guys I work with always ask what kind of girls I like but it honestly doesn't matter too much.
But i don't feel the need to come out. I used to often but it always confused people so I just stopped. It's the idea of liking feminine looking guys that confuses folk. They seem to think being in a relationship with a guy is as stupid as stepping on a landmine so I got a lot of questions along the lines of "If you like guys that look like girls why not just be with a girl?"
Hard to explain that it's not the gender or the sex of a person that matters to me (And yes I did mean to include both, there
IS a difference.) but the person. It'd be like if I asked, "If you like blondes so much why didn't you marry Farrah Fawcett?"
You don't always get to choose who you fall in love with and if folks don't like that I'm different then they can feel free to go find a dimension where everyone is the same.
I like who I am, but I don't feel the need to advertise who I am. Call it the wonders of growing older and more mature.