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Offline A Wanderer

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I Was Wrong
« on: August 13, 2013, 02:27:10 pm »
I'm sorry guys, I'm going to probably have to stop posting here. It's not you guys at all. Don't worry, I'll explain.

Back in my intro post you may have heard me say that to be active here would be a risky thing to do. But I said I would watch myself, watch my thoughts. I thought I could do it. But, well. One thing went to another and another. At first, I was just looking at some art here. Then, over at FurAffinity. And before I know it, lol, out of curiousity, I almost went to the, er, mature section.

This almost happened twice. And I just kept trying to rationalize. "It's fine, I'm just checking stuff out." And it seems the more I involve myself in this fandom, the more I am opening myself up to this sort of thing.

So there you have it. I'll probably have to leave even though it will pain me to do so. Perhaps some of you can think of something I can do besides taking such an extreme measure but I can't think of anything to do.
I am sorry to say that I am now no longer posting at Furtopia. Please read here for the full story. I really wish everyone the best.

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Re: I Was Wrong
« Reply #1 on: August 13, 2013, 02:30:01 pm »
you looked at mature art so now you are leaving.....why?
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Re: I Was Wrong
« Reply #2 on: August 13, 2013, 02:49:33 pm »
you looked at mature art so now you are leaving.....why?
Nope. Almost did. Twice. And there's not much point in me being here if I'm not going to get involved in the fandom, honestly.

If you missed my Intro thread, here it is. It will explain everything.
« Last Edit: August 13, 2013, 02:51:15 pm by A Wanderer »
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Re: I Was Wrong
« Reply #3 on: August 13, 2013, 03:04:07 pm »
I get that...but you do have to request access to go there if I'm correct. I've accidentally clicked on it a few times but that's my mobile devices fault...
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« Reply #4 on: August 13, 2013, 03:10:24 pm »
I get that...but you do have to request access to go there if I'm correct. I've accidentally clicked on it a few times but that's my mobile devices fault...
Here, yes. But FurAffinity doesn't really have such filters and its browsing and searching tools really don't work that well. Which is a shame because, obviously, that's where a good chunk of the art is.
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« Reply #5 on: August 13, 2013, 03:12:18 pm »
Oh yeah...that is true. Well whatever you decide to do I guess...
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« Reply #6 on: August 13, 2013, 03:23:01 pm »
Oh yeah...that is true. Well whatever you decide to do I guess...
Well, as I also said, I am open to suggestions. I really don't want to have to leave because of this but if I have to, I will.
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« Reply #7 on: August 13, 2013, 03:29:18 pm »
I get it but in the end you just have to make your best judgement for what you feel is right.
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Re: I Was Wrong
« Reply #8 on: August 13, 2013, 05:16:35 pm »
you keep talking about "less than pure thoughts" and whatnot, why be so ashamed of your sexual desires? you are human, you (and everyone else in existence) are going to have these thoughts, and if that makes someones mind impure, i am highly offended by it, because that would make me a filthy person, there is (contrary to how many are brought up) nothing wrong with sex, sexual thoughts, or sexual desires

it's a part of human nature
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« Reply #9 on: August 13, 2013, 05:48:44 pm »
you keep talking about "less than pure thoughts" and whatnot, why be so ashamed of your sexual desires? you are human, you (and everyone else in existence) are going to have these thoughts, and if that makes someones mind impure, i am highly offended by it, because that would make me a filthy person, there is (contrary to how many are brought up) nothing wrong with sex, sexual thoughts, or sexual desires

it's a part of human nature

agreed, dolphins ( being smarter then humans which are preceded by mice) see sexual act as just a normal part of life.
*note not actual smarter then us but they do use sex as a normal part of life, recreational
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Re: I Was Wrong
« Reply #10 on: August 13, 2013, 06:28:01 pm »
Or, you can just not look at them. Being involved in the furry fandom doesn't mean you have to look at mature art. You can always just set your adult filter on FurAffinity to General (which it should be set like that anyways). If you want, you don't even have to look at FurAffinity...you can just talk to furries on here. ;)
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« Reply #11 on: August 13, 2013, 06:32:38 pm »
you keep talking about "less than pure thoughts" and whatnot, why be so ashamed of your sexual desires? you are human, you (and everyone else in existence) are going to have these thoughts, and if that makes someones mind impure, i am highly offended by it, because that would make me a filthy person, there is (contrary to how many are brought up) nothing wrong with sex, sexual thoughts, or sexual desires

it's a part of human nature

agreed, dolphins ( being smarter then humans which are preceded by mice) see sexual act as just a normal part of life.
*note not actual smarter then us but they do use sex as a normal part of life, recreational

You know scientist are now beginning to believe that many species do it for pleasure as well as reproduction and see it as a part of life too. It is a common myth that most animals don't.

Also, i agree with Mylo on this.  ;)

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« Reply #12 on: August 13, 2013, 10:02:40 pm »
I was (and still am) largely able to avoid the mature side of the fandom unless I went looking for it.  I used mature filters and such.  It doesn't really do anything for me, I'm so desensitized to it all, so I don't really care anymore to use filters and such.

Honestly, suppression and denial are not control, if anything it shows a lack of control.  It's not healthy to try to deny what are essentially natural emotions and feelings and unless it's something harmful like pedophilia (in which case, help exists, you don't have to do it alone), there is no reason to.  With the exception of true asexuals, it's an unrealistic expectation to never have 'impure' and ridiculously easy to thwart.
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« Reply #13 on: August 13, 2013, 10:36:42 pm »
I don't think you have anything to worry about on Furtopia, and I see no need for you to leave here unless you absolutely feel you must. Anything adult/mature on Furtopia is mostly in our Adult Section which members must request access to by going here:
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Re: I Was Wrong
« Reply #14 on: August 13, 2013, 10:39:38 pm »
I'm going to step out on a limb here and just come out and say it. I'm not buying it.   If you want to be here you will find a reason to stay. Besides the first post i read from you read "why isn't there any drama here?" Really I don't mean to sound harsh. I don't think it has anything to do with porn. More like a game of cat and mouse.
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Re: I Was Wrong
« Reply #15 on: August 14, 2013, 02:04:22 am »
you keep talking about "less than pure thoughts" and whatnot, why be so ashamed of your sexual desires? you are human, you (and everyone else in existence) are going to have these thoughts, and if that makes someones mind impure, i am highly offended by it, because that would make me a filthy person, there is (contrary to how many are brought up) nothing wrong with sex, sexual thoughts, or sexual desires

it's a part of human nature
I'm sorry. Once again, I must remind you that 100% of these problems are purely personal problems. My problems. I do not think any less of one who believes differently than I do. You're absolutely right. Sex is natural and so are sexual desires and thoughts. However please understand, in my religion, we are taught to rein our emotions in. To control them and not let them control us.

Let's say if I dropped everything I believe in right now and began to view mature art, it would not be a disaster or even that much of a problem at all on the surface. But, spiritually speaking, it would be damaging for me. I'm sure we can both at least agree that any sort of porn is addictive. So far, I've kept away from it all.

You've asked me about these "less than pure" thoughts. You're right again. This is very ambiguous. But it's hard to describe what I exactly mean... I once said in the IRC that my being furry represents my want to be animalistic. To be free from societal constraints. To act on impulse. By entertaining my furry thoughts and desires, I am inadvertently entertaining side thoughts of lust, of rebellion, etc.

But I know what you're thinking. It's just being furry! It's hardly a big deal! I'm making a mountain out of a molehill, right? Well, that's what I thought as well but then I almost started looking for mature art on FurAffinity.

Being furry means different things to many of us. This is what being furry means to me, personally. To be somewhat of an animal in thoughts as well as on the outside. It would not do for me to go blundering in saying that it's not a big deal or even a deal at all when I know myself. When I know what I really want deep down. But I also know it would not make me truly happy.

*sigh* I have never EVER been this open about my thoughts and feelings to anyone on the internet ever. Never ever. But you guys, I'm sorry to say, stumbled upon something deep inside of me. I really don't mean to drama up the place but it seems I have to to adequately explain myself.

I'm going to step out on a limb here and just come out and say it. I'm not buying it.   If you want to be here you will find a reason to stay. Besides the first post i read from you read "why isn't there any drama here?" Really I don't mean to sound harsh. I don't think it has anything to do with porn. More like a game of cat and mouse.
I know exactly what you mean. As a forum veteran, I know this stuff happens too often. But perhaps this will convince you: If I were here to start up drama, don't you think I would employ better, more entertaining means of doing so? The best drama is usually accomplished with an attack on someone or a group of people about something, whether it be what they believe or even how they look.
« Last Edit: August 14, 2013, 02:42:46 pm by A Wanderer »
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Re: I Was Wrong
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« Reply #17 on: August 14, 2013, 03:04:11 am »
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« Reply #19 on: August 14, 2013, 03:13:13 am »
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« Reply #20 on: August 14, 2013, 04:04:57 am »
*sighs and rubs head* Sorry for the misunderstanding, its late, i'm gonna remove my posts and go to bed. i'd apriciate if you removed your replies to my posts...

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Re: I Was Wrong
« Reply #21 on: August 14, 2013, 04:41:29 am »
If the guy wants to leave then let him leave.
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« Reply #22 on: August 14, 2013, 07:03:20 am »
Actually this is one of the best ways to start drama. And I see you got your cat and mouse game. It's unfortunate but I think from now on folks will start taking your posts with a grain of salt. Or a better way of putting it, not taking you seriously. Again sorry if I'm sounding harsh. Don't mean to. It's really hard to write in a post and not sound like your angry or laughing at someone but I'll do my best. I'm neither. That's the truth. And to be blunt I'm more concerned about members here and how they could be manipulated into giving you what you want. I've been on forums longer than some of these members have been alive. I've seen it all.

There's no shame in falling for it SkyFire. Anyone with a good heart can show concern.

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Re: I Was Wrong
« Reply #23 on: August 14, 2013, 07:54:52 am »
Regardless of the situation in this thread, I honestly don't think you will find a better, calmer, politer and nicer fury forum on the web than this. But it's your choice.
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« Reply #24 on: August 14, 2013, 08:33:56 am »
religion causes more trouble than it's worth, as I see it

I tells you not to act upon something you were MADE to act upon, it is an unnecessary restraint
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