Author Topic: Ashamed or just misunderstood? (Read 7441 times)

grasper · « **on:** June 12, 2003, 09:48:58 pm »

My mom knows and she teases me about it occasionaly.

Ecco · « **Reply #1 on:** June 12, 2003, 09:06:41 pm »

People at work know..they think it's totally cute ':.'

My mate knows....he dosen't care...he knows everyone in furdom is generally harmless...and dosent mind me joining the fandom. He makes fun of me sometimes...like at African Lion Safari...he pointed to a tiger mask as asked if I thought he was sexier if he wore it...lol then I poked him...good and hard...right about the ol' kidney's
He's not a fur but he's understanding and loving....and I deserved that tease...since I tease him about being a car/computer geek...lol

Silver · « **Reply #2 on:** May 21, 2003, 03:27:58 pm »

Hey, me again, as the my exams loom ever closer I realise that there is something inside of he that is for want of better words, keeping me company. The idea that I've got or possibly may have a wolf connection inside of me is giving me strength, however I'm really looking forward to these things just starting and finishing.

This isn't the point of the thread htough, I just wanted to know how many people have said that they were furs or therianthropes IRL (In Real Life) because I just find that I can't say it, I don't think I'm ashamed of the fact, I'm still learning myself, but I just think that people will think I'm some sort of a crack pot which I why I don't say it, I'm not even sure how my parents would react, I odn't know whether they would htink it was a joke or not.

I think that I wouldn't be able to drop it into conversation, I odn't care, I just, I don't know, I don't think I'm ashamed of the fact *grins* I'm not sure who I'm trying to convince here

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It's just something that I don't talk about a hell of a lot out of the net setting, apart from to people who are REALLY close and even then they are still over the net.

zackary_rainheart · « **Reply #3 on:** May 21, 2003, 03:58:07 pm »

*Grins*
I Blert it out usually upon meeting someone for the fisrt time.. then if thay don't know what a "furry" is I try and explain it too them.
But then to me I suppose I feel that if someone can't accept me for who I am then thay aren't really worth hanging out with. Thats just how I feel I suppose.. but hey.. I can't speek for anyfur but me.. I'm too weird.

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Jadnar · « **Reply #4 on:** May 21, 2003, 05:29:06 pm »

I occasionally draw a pic or two at school, And quite rarely someone would ask who it is. If it is me, I'd say it was me. They'd quirk their eyebrow and say, "Your a horse?" (well, that is before I became a nice little Wolf/Horse Hybrid)

I'd say yup.

Where it goes from there it depends. One time There was a few intersted people, and they started asking what sort of animal they would be. I must admit it was rather neat. ^_^

I guess it all depends on the person or persons. But It is quite interesting. I usally go off a Ask first, answers later, instead of answers now, more questions later. ^_^ If they ask I say, if they don't ask, I don't bother.

kitty · « **Reply #5 on:** May 21, 2003, 07:02:15 pm »

I usualy talk about those kind of things with people who understand what I'm talking about and trust. I'm not ashamed of what I am, just many people misunderstand me (or my kind) and blow things out of proportion or twist what I say. ':dead:'

I talk about being furry/therian to my bro. Tried to talk to my mom about it and she gets way off into who knows where. ':.'

It doesn't help she's not a good listener either.

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Bear Paw · « **Reply #6 on:** May 21, 2003, 08:05:35 pm »

It's not that im embaressed about it, and I can take allot of flack but I just wouldn't want it to back on my family in anyway. Second I talk about it with people I think will understand it rather than just anyone. It take a bit of time to guage someone and you may not be right all the time but it saves allot of hassle in the long run. After all Silver I haven't told my parents not even OUR Games Master ( you know who

'> ) the only people who know is my sister ( sort of) those here and a few roleplaying chums thats it. I don't think you should hide what you are in a sense but mearly avoid hitting people head on with it, try and see if they may share views test the water so to speak. But that's just me talking , thats how I deal with it others find there own way. The main point is you're not embaresed about it and why should you be there's nothing wrong with furry or whatever you are.

« **Reply #7 on:** May 21, 2003, 10:14:51 pm »

Of all the days for this topic to appear...

My father just found out I was a fur. I didn't tell him; he just figured it out based on some of the stuff I was writing. He didn't by the whole 'furry is unbiased to the audience' speech, so I just admitted it.

I have told others directly though. I wrote an article on rebellion as a trend for a school magazine which I finished up by stating that furs are the 21st century rebels (with much to back up my statement). When the magazine went out, I had to tell a lot of people that:

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"You shouldn't call fur a fetish because you'll likely offend a lot of furs, including me."

Of course, apart from my father, all of my relatives would probably look into hiring an excorsist if they knew I was a fur. Only two more years and then I can get the uniform; I imagine I'll be a very open fur then.

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Nobunaga · « **Reply #8 on:** June 10, 2003, 12:26:51 am »

I've discussed the way i feel with a few people, but none of them really understood so i just kinda let it go. there are very few people close to me that would even understand the concept let alone the way i feel, i live in a redneck town,i stay because of the ready access to nature and my animal breatheren. To be honest tho i dont understand everything myself yet, theres always been something just out of reach for me, and im just starting to learn about it. but i think thats why we're all here, to talk without reprisal from the world around us and to try and help eachother with these things.

Benjamin · « **Reply #9 on:** June 10, 2003, 12:46:07 am »

I basically tell people on a "need to know" basis and I'm not going to go out of my way to tell anyone about my furryness. I tell folks about my interest in lions, since it's quite obvious when one notices that I have a lot of lion t-shirts and other such things. I just tend not to feel motivated to say much about furry except in it's most basic terms. I don't expect anyone to understand my personal take on the fandom as it relates directly to me, so I tend not to care to explain it to them unless it's necessary... or they ask.

Benjamin

grasper · « **Reply #10 on:** June 10, 2003, 01:04:09 am »

The first person i ever told about my furryness was jennacat, who in a strange twist of fate(and complete awesomeness) realized she was furry also. the only person i have told seince then is my mom, who i dont think understands it taht well, but is very accepting and i am grateful about that. The thing is that i know there is a alot of misinformed people, and i dont want to make myself a lightining rod for ridicule, the people who go to our school (jenna and my school that is) can be very judgemental. I think if someone asked i would say yes. but im not about to bring it up. heh.

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MadDawg276 · « **Reply #11 on:** June 10, 2003, 01:10:14 am »

I haven't told anyone yet and I'm not planning on it anytime soon. Most of the people I know are not open to new ideas especially my friends (They're not the greatest of friends working on getting new ones. They all turned out to be incredibly stupid and mean people.).

Keshiji · « **Reply #12 on:** June 10, 2003, 01:15:24 am »

I'm not an human, I'm a white lion and my friends know that ^_^

Take Care

Cya!

Skunkwolf · « **Reply #13 on:** June 10, 2003, 02:16:33 am »

I told my friends about about furry/therianthropy a while back. And it has produced many an interesting conversation. Trying to explain it all and answer all their questions and such. I wasn't ashamed of it all, I had no reason to be. I was mainly scared of what my friends would think. My friends are my family. My mom knows about therianthropy and she didn't care. We've talked about it at length as well. I've only told thoes that are close because I want them to know who and what I am. I don't have to hide it and it's great. My mind is starting to go off subject, so I'll just stop here.

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Zero · « **Reply #14 on:** June 10, 2003, 04:01:25 am »

Most people know about me being a fur. Although no-one who knows me is repulsed by it. My family really see it as a hobby, and nothing more.
As for coming out and saying that I was a fur, I'd tell them I was if they asked and be prepared for the reaction.
I am who I am, and I don't see any change in the near future.

WhiteShepherd · « **Reply #15 on:** June 10, 2003, 12:51:59 pm »

I'm a what you see is what you get dog. I've told my friends and family about furry. They also know I have always has a very strong connection to canines. I did try showing my friend Dark Dancer furry 7 years ago. He did's think he would be interested but after I recently showed him "Fur Will FLy" he started checking out other places like Furry Muck and the forums. I STILL remember our old late night conversations even many years befor that, "So who you think is sexier on Tinytoons?"

grasper · « **Reply #16 on:** June 10, 2003, 03:15:39 pm »

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I STILL remember our old late night conversations even many years befor that, "So who you think is sexier on Tinytoons?"

HAHA thats classic

MadDawg276 · « **Reply #17 on:** June 10, 2003, 03:39:43 pm »

I always did like that Fifi...

MadDawg276

zackary_rainheart · « **Reply #18 on:** June 10, 2003, 04:07:12 pm »

Aww... Furball.. deffently.
And Salvester(sp?) for the adult toons.

Drake Blackpaw · « **Reply #19 on:** June 11, 2003, 11:28:30 am »

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I always did like that Fifi...

MadDawg276

You and me both MadDawg ':cool:'

Minerva Mink from Anamanics is another great one to add

Patrick Rangerwolf · « **Reply #20 on:** June 11, 2003, 11:29:11 am »

Minerva Mink on Animaniacs, definitely. *whistles and howls*

grasper · « **Reply #21 on:** June 11, 2003, 06:34:52 pm »

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Minerva Mink on Animaniacs, definitely. *whistles and howls*

yupyup,def minerva
(we are all terrible)

Admiral Purge · « **Reply #22 on:** June 12, 2003, 01:20:59 am »

I wound up explaining my furriness to my friends like I wind up explaining most things; alot of fast talking at first and details that don't have to do with me distancing myself from the topic in question later O.o; but then I didn't really tell them... they discovered it *ahem* anywho. It seems to me that as with anything the majority of people don't really fully understand, once you can get them to realize that all furs are not the same, and that you haven't signed on with some odd fanatical cult, they're much better listeners. Referencing the previous example, "So you like animals now" was not the way I figured a productive and educational conversation would go, so I made sure to head that off in advance. If you can deny a stereotype before it is applied to you, you can generally reshape a person's opinion of a subject (again, furrydom) with some good ol' facts. More off topic ramblings from the guy who rarely posts. Because he's always off topic. And rambles ^.^

Decession · « **Reply #23 on:** June 12, 2003, 03:36:38 pm »

I've only told 2 people that I'm a furry. They're both very close female friends of mine, who I can share anything with (since they share just about anything with me

'>). I got to the point where I had to tell someone, and they were both there, so... I had to explain what 'furry' was of course, but they were really understanding about it. It's great though, I enjoy talking about it with them. And they buy me stuff that has to do with wolves (a plush wolf, posters, etc.). Not sure how I'll tell other people though...

np: Living Sacrifice - Symbiotic

Benjamin · « **Reply #24 on:** June 12, 2003, 07:03:28 pm »

Well, if you'd like to meet fellow furs for real, Decession, you can find instructions for joining the Michigan Furry e-mail list at http://www.catbox.com/mifur/.

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I met a girl last month who's into lions, and we've been dating... and occasionally get each other some lion or The Lion King paraphernalia as little presents. Our collections just keep growing and growing and growing...

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Benjamin