Author Topic: How social are you as a furry? (Read 18168 times)

Manethran · « **Reply #50 on:** July 27, 2003, 09:58:59 am »

Quote (Drake Blackpaw @ July 27 2003, 8:26 am)

Mane,

Your 18, you'll soon be away at college, and a roadtrip is part of growing up. Â Is your dad afraid that you can't handle a trip that far by yourself, or is he afraid of what you'll do that far from home? Â Now if your vehicle isn't that reliable, then he may have reason to question you going. Â Whitesheperd and Kada-Ru can tell you how much fun it is to have a vehicle breakdown on a long roadtrip. Â If his concern is your vehicle, it's not that expensive to fly if you go by Airtran.

The DC area is probably right on your path back from Rhode Island. Â Let me know when you'll be on your way through and maybe we can arrange to get together. Â If you need a place to crash for the night, I can probably arrange that also. Â

The Hampton Roads / Newport News crowd on the board wouldn't be too far out of your way either. Â You may want to check with some of them if they want to meet you on the way back.

Drake

Hey, thanks for the reply Drake.

I'm sure he thinks I can handle the trip and I know he doesn't worry what I'll do. I've been very careful in my life, so as to never give my parents a reason to worry about me if I go some where (If only they knew the real me.. lol). Never had a curfew (sp?) or anything like that. My car is very reliable. The only trouble I have had in 2 years has been a dead battery cause I left the dome light on. I could afford to drive, before I could buy a bus, plane, or train ticket. I have a map from mapquest.com to get me there. HERE is the route I will follow. You can see how far I may pass by you. It would be great to meet up with some of the other furs. I might have to take you up on that place to crash, I won't be able to stay in a hotel and the person I am going to see isn't allowed to let others stay the night. So. I'm actually going to be sleeping in my car. Shhhh, the person nor my parents need to know this.

Other views of my route.
Turn by Turn Directions with Maps
Overview Map with Text

Drake Blackpaw · « **Reply #51 on:** July 27, 2003, 11:12:51 am »

Quote (Manethran @ July 27 2003, 9:58 am)

is the route I will follow. You can see how far I may pass by you.

Your route takes you within about 12 miles of my house, or about 20 minutes away depending on traffic. If you look at step 10 on your map, you will see Reston located a little above route 66 that you are taking. That is where I live.

I'll talk to my wife about sleep space. We have a futon downstairs that acts as a couch for visitors to sleep on.

Drake

Manethran · « **Reply #52 on:** July 27, 2003, 06:16:01 pm »

Well the trip has been shot to hell. Of course my parents had a few hundred reasons against it and because of that I think I have lost the friendship of the one I was going to go see. I know, if you lost it that easy maybe it was not right. Bah to that. I know this persons lifestory. They have had it rough.

1. You do not know the person.
2. That is too far. (psh 1200 miles ain't crap I put that on my car in a week.)
3. Where are you gonna stay? With them? (refer to #1) In a hotel? (Your 18, they won't let you get one.... Sure they won't.)

If I had a persons name, number, address, and a lot of other information of a person around the chattanooga area. I could go see them, but thats all. Life sucks once again.....

Jadnar · « **Reply #53 on:** July 27, 2003, 07:28:03 pm »

Ouchies! Dats poopy. :/ Mrf...

Though, I'd have to agree... it's not really well planned and all, and the fact that your friend would break off just because you can't go and see him right off, well that's rather poopie in it's self.

Manethran · « **Reply #54 on:** July 27, 2003, 11:27:06 pm »

Well, I talked to the person and listened in on some of the thing going on in their house. They are still hurt that I won't make it, but we still get along and everything. I blame it in stress and personal problems.

Jadnar · « **Reply #55 on:** July 28, 2003, 08:14:24 am »

*nods slowly*

Something of which seems to run rampent in this world.

Drake Blackpaw · « **Reply #56 on:** July 28, 2003, 09:18:22 am »

Quote (Manethran @ July 27 2003, 11:27 pm)

Well, I talked to the person and listened in on some of the thing going on in their house. They are still hurt that I won't make it, but we still get along and everything. I blame it in stress and personal problems.

Sorry your plans blew up Mane, but it may have been for the best. It sounds like your friend has a lot of issues to deal with at the moment, which could make for a very awkward 1st RL meeting.

It's unfortunate, but people who grow up in families with lots of problems tend to have similar problems themselves. I'd be careful in moving forward with any relationship because baggage they carry will show itself, and often in ways that are very hurtful. Unfortunately my wife can attest to that from the early days of our marriage. These problems can be overcome, but they take a lot of time and effort. It will be hard for your friend to ovecome these until they are away from their family.

Be supportive, helpful and understanding, but also be careful for yourself. I know it's advice you probably don't want to hear, but I don't want to see you get hurt.

Drake

Chaz_wolf · « **Reply #57 on:** July 28, 2003, 09:28:28 am »

I am sorry to hear your trip is not going through Manethran, But rember you have lots of friends here.
If you need anything just ask.

I know how you feel, I have been in the same situation, but its better than going there and then finding that you have nowere to stay etc.. I have had that happen too..

Anyways, we are here for you.

Chaz

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Benjamin · « **Reply #58 on:** July 28, 2003, 06:25:59 pm »

It's a pity that the trip didn't work out, Manethran.
It's rather difficult to meet someone over a long distance, especially at your age. Travelling ain't cheap. ':p'

There may be other times, and if so, then go for it when the opportunity arises.

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Benjamin

Patrick Rangerwolf · « **Reply #59 on:** August 06, 2003, 09:06:54 pm »

I tell you I'd like to meet all of the great furs I talk to online, and I have met quite a few personally, Kada-Ru, White Shepherd, my panther bro, Zackary Rainheart, and my big bro, Chaz. Meeting them personally made the friendships much stronger. I am very personable, and I like to have face to face friendships. Must be the wolf in me. I like things to be tactile. Example: You can tell me all day long how good the airtime is and how jaw-dropping the ride on a certain rollercoaster is, but until I ride it myself, I just won't feel it.

IMO, a good RL embrace is much better than an online *hug*, like that.

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Chaz_wolf · « **Reply #60 on:** August 08, 2003, 09:11:59 am »

I would have to agree with my Little Bro.

I find my friendships get stronger when I finaly met a fur RL rather than online.

I still care and worry about my online firends and try to keep in touch with them via phone and email etc.. But I worry more about them after meeting them for real.

Your folfy
Chaz

Draska · « **Reply #61 on:** January 20, 2004, 10:55:00 am »

I don't know any furs in RL, though I did find out that there's a fur who attends a LARP that I do. Problem being, I'm too damn shy to approach him.

RoseWind · « **Reply #62 on:** January 20, 2004, 09:35:20 am »

Quote (User_of_Shadows @ Jan. 19 2004, 10:56 pm)

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crying out loud so conservative

Hey whats wrong with being conservative Â

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nothing Im moderate/liberal but i support the natural law party anyway its just that i go to a private school with people who wouldnt understand i actually have a friend who likes anthro and now I wonder if shes a furry herself um anyway conservatives are cool one of my best friends is very conservative (then again I have another friend whose very liberal) I dont judge people by their party.

Pillowmint · « **Reply #63 on:** September 14, 2003, 02:21:29 pm »

As for myself, I'd love to meet more furs. Kind fo shy though, and I have serious problems relating to most humans. My best friend knows that I'm a furry, and she thinks it's pretty cool. I'm still a bit apprehensive about letting any of my other friends know. They can be somewhat...highly critical.

Yeah, so I didn't vote since I couldn't give an honest answer on the poll.

Drake Blackpaw · « **Reply #64 on:** January 20, 2004, 01:58:32 pm »

Quote (User_of_Shadows @ Jan. 18 2004, 6:03 pm)

Well the problem is besides I am boring also. I have this thing about meeting people I seen on the internet. call it being paranoido, or being over protected by my parents when we first got the internet. Besides what would my parents think if the saw some furries walk down the street, heh. (they dont know anything about furries, tough my dad did see some of the artwork I printed out and was confused by it.)

You make it sound like furries look different from everyone else. Unless they are wearing ears and a tail, which most don't, they basically look like everyone else.

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I have this thing about meeting people I seen on the internet. call it being paranoido, or being over protected by my parents when we first got the internet.

It's good to be a little bit cautious. Best to first meet somewhere in public with other people around and let someone else know where you are meeting. Still, I've made a couple of good friends, one that I am especially close to at the moment that I first met online.

zackary_rainheart · « **Reply #65 on:** September 24, 2003, 06:09:48 pm »

I know the feeling.

Myself.. I'm thinking of trying my paw at writeing.. and then torchering me bro, Patrick by makeing him read it and tell me what he thinks of it.
*insert evil laugh here*

Loganberry · « **Reply #66 on:** September 24, 2003, 06:41:41 pm »

Never met any other furs in RL myself. Several reasons for that:

* I can't drive (being epileptic), so am at the mercy of the British public transport system. (This is not a good thing!

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* No furcons here. Britfur in early 2005 - which I'm hoping to be able to go to - will be the first, I believe, which is kind of ridiculous when you think about how many furs there are in the UK.
* I really don't like the way most British furmeets operate - hot noisy crowded places with flashing lights like pubs, clubs and (especially) arcades are not a good idea for my epilepsy. And I've never liked being chucked into a big group of people I've never met anyway. I far prefer meeting new people one or two at a time.
* For one reason and another, I don't find it very easy to trust people. There are furs I trust absolutely, but in general they live hundreds, or even thousands, of miles away.

All the above being so, the net is an absolute lifeline. I certainly don't consider my closest furry friends any less close because I've never met them - there are a small handful I'd trust with my life without a second thought.

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Schizo_Wolf · « **Reply #67 on:** October 01, 2003, 10:12:56 am »

Update on my furry social life:

-Traveled to Toronto to meet a freind who is a fur.
-Discovered that there are 2 other furs going to my college (hang out with them on a regular basis).
-Planning to attend FC2004.
-Going to attend local furmeet/party that happens twice every month.
-Met some friendly furs online in the SoCal region that I'm going to visit once I have the means of transportation.

beyond the darkness · « **Reply #68 on:** October 13, 2003, 06:36:01 am »

The only fur I know in the area is Chimera which is pretty cool as it means I see him most days at collage so there is always someone to talk to.

Varg the wanderer · « **Reply #69 on:** October 13, 2003, 08:39:45 am »

Any ideas on how I could meet fellow furries in RL?
I don't realy know anyone exept one of my friends and I'd really like to meet more.

firefox_b · « **Reply #70 on:** October 13, 2003, 09:41:54 am »

Unfortunately, I know no furs in real life, but hopefully this will eventually change. I feel much less isolated now since finding Furtopia, and am so grateful that we have this fine community! The 'puter is a great tool, and can bring furs together, even if we are scattered around the globe. I really feel an affinity for a good number of furs here, and can relate to what they are saying and feeling, even if it is just on line. I've set going to a con as a goal by which I can become more social with other furs by meeting them in RL. Being furry is a journey rather than just a single destination, and we are probably all at different stages of that trip, and some take interesting side excursions along the way. There's no wrong way to travel, and we can each help one another grow...

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Darius Greywind · « **Reply #71 on:** October 14, 2003, 01:30:29 am »

Quote (Benjamin @ Oct. 14 2003, 12:05 am)

I've recently been shown to a newer Furry Finder site, which is an interesting site in it's own right. Check it out...

http://www.halfdragon.de/furryfinder/index.cgi

Benjamin

I really don't like that site's interface. Waaay too hard to use. I much prefer IFPL.

Benjamin · « **Reply #72 on:** October 14, 2003, 12:05:14 am »

I've recently been shown to a newer Furry Finder site, which is an interesting site in it's own right. Check it out...

http://www.halfdragon.de/furryfinder/index.cgi

Benjamin

Lexington the wolf · « **Reply #73 on:** October 14, 2003, 12:09:58 am »

I would love to meet other furs in real life. Sadly, at the time, this seems imposible for many reasons. You guys are the only other furs I have contact with. I really apprecate you all.

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Lex the wolf

Sunookitsune · « **Reply #74 on:** October 13, 2003, 09:41:10 pm »

Quote (Varg the wanderer @ Oct. 13 2003, 8:39 am)

Any ideas on how I could meet fellow furries in RL?
I don't realy know anyone exept one of my friends and I'd really like to meet more.

The IFPL can help. It does seem to be down alot though.

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Author Topic: How social are you as a furry? (Read 18168 times)