Author Topic: Are you in the furry closet? (Read 134807 times)

Tav Nymblewynd · « **Reply #100 on:** May 30, 2007, 01:35:39 am »

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Well, Morbidcorvid, I have found times when it's best to stay in the closet somewhat. This past weekend, My brother saw my background of me in a suit and his response was "I'm sorry". Though I think it was a more sarcastic attempt at humor than shunning it and doubt he knows about the fandom. The next day, I accidently left my laptop open with my fur pics screensaver on. I only use safe pics, but my mom happened to walk by and notice it. I couldn't see just which pics were up, but I watched her out of the corner of my eye and she just had this major confused look on her face. So while I'm not afraid to show it to those that want to know, sometimes you can just tell when and who not to show it to for their own "protection".
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*nods* I would have to agree with that. As now I consider myself "out of the closet" I don't jump around showing it. I tend to keep it hidden mostly unless some one asks. Then if i feel they are mature enough to handle something different, I'll tell them. ^^

Kiboe Motegi · « **Reply #101 on:** May 30, 2007, 11:38:53 am »

my mom knows, its just she still is skeptical on it, when i mentioned a fursuit to her she replied this: "you know, kevin, there is a line, and your crossing it", i fear that if my dad sees me in a fursuit, i will be commeted to richard young in kearney (looney bin)

lucky_white · « **Reply #102 on:** June 07, 2007, 03:44:55 pm »

The main reason people stay in the furry closet is because they fear their family or friends will shun them for it. As I've mentioned before, I've got myself a wonderful family and great friends. So it's common for other furries to wonder why I don't come out and tell people about my "peculiarities."

My case isn't as regular as other furries', I don't believe. First of all, I don't really consider myself to be a furry, since furries are the people who enjoy conventions, fursuits, plushies, and the like; the fandom part, if you will. You can imagine how hard it is to relate myself to a fandom I'm only slightly part of. Now imagine how hard it would be to explain my "peculiarity" without having much of anything to relate to, besides a fandom I'm hardly involved with. My logic: If I can't explain it, I don't expect anyone else to understand it.

The other reason makes more sense, though it's almost ironic. My family would never throw me out, make fun of me, or be embarrassed because of a personal difference. However, they won't ignore it either. I'm sure they would try their best to understand, though I doubt if they ever fully will. I don't tell my family because I think it would be too hard on them verses on myself. It would kind of ruin things for them if they are reminded of my bizarre trait every time they see cartoon animals on TV.

As for my friends, I'm sure they would be cool with it. Especially if I explain clearly my situation and opinions, so that they know I'm not into what they (and myself, for the most part) would consider crappy. No offense, though; it's just that not everything in the fandom is... well, you know how some of it is. I don't tell my friends because there's the whole reminder part again; every time an animal appears on TV they remember my difference. No way I'm messing up their lives like that.

I've read a lot about people wanting to come out of the closet or help their parents to understand. It's always a conflict of acceptance with the victim's reputation at stake. Well, what about the friends and family of the victim? Don't they have something to lose? Isn't it hard on them if the victim isn't who they seemed? I say victim because we don't always choose to be; it comes to us. Or, at least in my case... minus the furry part, since I'm just part furry...

Dang it, what am I? Or is it who? Blah! I ask you not; I talk to myself!

PS: Why are some people really bad at hiding their secrets? I have locked boxes, passwords, filters, erased history, hidden files... and I keep my mouth shut. Really, it's not that hard if you try.

Epsy · « **Reply #103 on:** June 08, 2007, 11:44:09 pm »

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PS: Why are some people really bad at hiding their secrets? I have locked boxes, passwords, filters, erased history, hidden files... and I keep my mouth shut. Really, it's not that hard if you try.

Some of us have parents that are good with computers.

Acton · « **Reply #104 on:** June 14, 2007, 01:57:14 am »

I was always an outcast. as a result I developed a devil can care attitude. I really do not care what people think of me. In addition my being fury does not come close to my other eccentric hobby of blowing up giant latex balloons. Usually I do 36in to 72 inch round and fond of blowing them up until they burst. Used to go to large parks and anywhere from 4 to 6 balloons on a Sunday and even go my picture in the paper bursting an 40in balloon.

With this in my being fury in public is nothing.

Like Fury Fandom, there an adult component. Some people has accused, associated me with having a balloon fetish. This fetish is an offshoot of latex fetish community. Like yiffy part of anthropomorphic fandom, I wish to have nothing to do adult fury or fetish communities.

In a way learning how to deal with and avoid the fetish community has help me to accept my own furriness in that both I do not need to partake of the sexual and pornographic sides of both.

Loo Rou · « **Reply #105 on:** June 14, 2007, 09:59:57 am »

I've told my sister and my friend that I'm a furry, and I plan to tell more ^^

Volpeculus · « **Reply #106 on:** August 13, 2007, 11:24:24 pm »

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My case isn't as regular as other furries', I don't believe. First of all, I don't really consider myself to be a furry, since furries are the people who enjoy conventions, fursuits, plushies, and the like; the fandom part, if you will. You can imagine how hard it is to relate myself to a fandom I'm only slightly part of. Now imagine how hard it would be to explain my "peculiarity" without having much of anything to relate to, besides a fandom I'm hardly involved with. My logic: If I can't explain it, I don't expect anyone else to understand it.

You know, this is the situation I find myself in too

. I love reading, writing, and viewing art about anthropomorphic animals, and yet I have no desire at all to attend a furry con or formally define myself as "FURRY" (anthropomorphic enthusiast?). Most of my close friends and family know there's something odd about me in that way, but if I put on a tail and collar, they wouldn't get it (and I'd feel like an arse :p). It took some time, but eventually I accepted most of it as just another aspect of my personal weirdness... I think o.0 .

Dex01 · « **Reply #107 on:** August 21, 2007, 12:30:25 pm »

I've told a few freinds and my mother

my mum reaction:
"oh well you'll find that most people associate themselves with animals so you're not really that different from most"

The friends I have told so far:
"I don't understand yoru point of view but I respect it"

"A furry? REALLY? wow of all the people I'd never of expected you! "

"Yeah don't go near 4chan"

I will tell others If I am asked. but there are a couple of people who know nothing about and won't understand the significance of it so I won't bother telling them.

and even if they did find out I couldn't care less what they think about me. I 've always been a bit of an outsider so it won't really make much difference to me.

Drasune · « **Reply #108 on:** August 23, 2007, 12:27:23 am »

I have yet to tell my friends or family, and don't really plan to. I haven't really done anything to hide it, and they probably wouldn't care if they found out.
I wouldn't be surprised if they did know and I just haven't noticed, I'm horribly unobservant that way ':dead:'

Fangz · « **Reply #109 on:** August 23, 2007, 02:21:40 am »

Naa I don't wanna come out it's warm and cosy in here

'> Tho I tell some I would not wanna tell everyone and my parents and stuff. If they give it a good tought they should already know tho, and I bet most ppl thats abit know I'm not totaly normal but none asks alot and my parents never asked about any wierd behavior. I'l keep it too myself for now I think tho if someone askes about it I think I would just tell, but I'm not gonna waste time shuving it in the face of ppl that really don't wanna know.

Volpeculus · « **Reply #110 on:** August 23, 2007, 01:48:29 pm »

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I'l keep it too myself for now I think tho if someone askes about it I think I would just tell, but I'm not gonna waste time shuving it in the face of ppl that really don't wanna know.

I have to agree here. I think I've already confused some people by dropping too many hints with not enough explanation (especially when some of them don't have the constitution for this kind of thing...).

Traumerei · « **Reply #111 on:** August 24, 2007, 08:44:50 pm »

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I'l keep it too myself for now I think tho if someone askes about it I think I would just tell, but I'm not gonna waste time shuving it in the face of ppl that really don't wanna know.

I have to agree here. I think I've already confused some people by dropping too many hints with not enough explanation (especially when some of them don't have the constitution for this kind of thing...).

Yes, the last thing you would want is someone falsely assuming something much different than the truth... I'm not quite sure what, but assumption without consent is never a good thing.

Volpeculus · « **Reply #112 on:** August 25, 2007, 07:16:58 pm »

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I'l keep it too myself for now I think tho if someone askes about it I think I would just tell, but I'm not gonna waste time shuving it in the face of ppl that really don't wanna know.
I have to agree here. I think I've already confused some people by dropping too many hints with not enough explanation (especially when some of them don't have the constitution for this kind of thing...).
Yes, the last thing you would want is someone falsely assuming something much different than the truth... I'm not quite sure what, but assumption without consent is never a good thing.

Hehe... some people may not have this problem, but most people I know would be rather intimidated by associating me with furry, and I can be shy and reserved if I'm not standing on absolutely solid ground :S . Thus, no tails, collars, etc. Sorry!

Fangz · « **Reply #113 on:** August 30, 2007, 08:31:09 am »

Ah yes I'm kinda shy too so I don't wanna scare away the few ppl I meet by running around yelling "I'm furry HUG ME" or something

'> haha okey not saying exactly that but ya get the point. However I have goten a question a few times since I do like too wear collars ^^ and I do answer em too

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Synap · « **Reply #114 on:** September 09, 2007, 12:55:16 pm »

Well a few of my friends are fine with it but my as for the guys in my unit every time i open my mouth instead of what i say they hear I'M CRAZY!!! and never listen to what I say

Alysian Bluehoof · « **Reply #115 on:** November 20, 2007, 11:32:13 pm »

for me, i didn't come out and tell people straight up that im a fur. i made a bunch of rainbow phi paw stickers and pins that i put on a bunch of my stuff, i have a zebra plushie i kinda pinned onto the messanger bag i use for school, i wear a petite dog's collar as a wristband, ect~stuff other furs would recognize. if someone asks `bout them, i just tell them that it "symbolizes the close emotional and mental affinity i have for anthropomorphized animal characters of all species and genders". tee hee.

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Alysian Bluehoof · « **Reply #116 on:** December 17, 2007, 11:15:44 pm »

i feel i should elaborate a bit- to get the idea across properly to my family i showed them some anthro art (mine and other's), i play furry music in the car when im driving and my moms with me (i find that 'furry forrest theme' by runtt is particularly upbeat), and i showed her some furry explanation threads right here on furtopia. its best if first contact isnt someone googling 'furry`, but you showing them yourself, so you can answer questions.

Calufa · « **Reply #117 on:** December 18, 2007, 02:42:02 am »

I've personally told 2 friends and probably indirectly told several others via furry-themed AIM away messages. It's kinda "liberating" I guess you could say and I don't censor myself around them anymore.

Oh, and where can I find furry music? I wasn't aware it existed, any links?

Alysian Bluehoof · « **Reply #118 on:** December 18, 2007, 10:47:22 am »

despite the simplistic link, its actually kinda hard to find... but these here are free.

http://furrymusic.org/

.... some are better thn others. you'll see what i mean ':p'

Morg · « **Reply #119 on:** December 21, 2007, 01:01:07 am »

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Calufa · « **Reply #120 on:** December 21, 2007, 01:39:20 am »

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despite the simplistic link, its actually kinda hard to find... but these here are free.

http://furrymusic.org/

.... some are better thn others. you'll see what i mean

Heh, they usually are the simplest links. Thanks, and I'll have to check these out.

Shakar Otter · « **Reply #121 on:** March 07, 2008, 06:36:55 pm »

You know you're furry when all you play is

Sweet: Fox On The Run

Metallica: Of Wolf And Man.

Ferrous_Oxide · « **Reply #122 on:** March 08, 2008, 02:55:38 am »

I've only told a few people and still consider myself a closet fur, especially from my closest friends. I know they wouldn't understand it if I told them. I have suspicions that my Mom knows, but I have never really come out and told any member of my family. I don't really feel ashamed to be part of the fandom, it is more that it is a private aspect of who I am. Also it would be kind of a sketchy time to drop the furry bomb right now for more reasons than one.

Neon · « **Reply #123 on:** March 08, 2008, 01:45:26 pm »

Nnnn, I finally told my best friend. She laughed about it and took it real well. :3 She knows I'm not like, to the EXTREME furry so it's allll goooood.

Nobody else knows though. And I plan to keep it that way. Even though it's hanging up all over my deviantart. o_o

Epsy · « **Reply #124 on:** March 08, 2008, 03:27:47 pm »

The only reason I don't tell my friends is because I don't feel like having to explain it. I really don't think it's a huge deal, and I don't care if people know I'm furry.