Author Topic: Furry Attraction (Read 5514 times)

Patrick Rangerwolf · « **on:** July 01, 2003, 11:11:18 am »

Love has been a big topic on the forums as of late. I'd like to add a new twist. What attracts a furry to another furry? Is it the fursona or the RL human that houses the fursona? With me, my wolf side is attracted to a leopardess furry, but my human side (which I try to suppress) also has a crush on the RL creator of this same feline fursona. Yet, it's her feline personality that gets me really fired up more than her humanity. Both are pretty cute. So. Is it the human behind the mask of this animal or is the anthro-animal inside of the human that is the attracting force?

Just curious. What do you think?

Jadnar · « **Reply #1 on:** July 01, 2003, 11:19:25 am »

Hmm.. That is a pretty good question...

I think that the human self and the furry self are the one and the same. How can you act out something your not? Most furries pick out an animal that closely resembles themselves. As a result, I think it would be along the lines that even if the human created the fursona, it is still the same person. Like how they select actors for characters. If the acter has the same characteristics as the character, then that acter would be selected.

I think that the two would go hand in hand. If you love the furry, you love the human, or vise versa.

Kada-Ru · « **Reply #2 on:** July 01, 2003, 11:52:12 am »

I know there are a few furs out there that are one way when using their fursona and a completely different way when met in RL.

When I met WS on the internet, I think it was AFF, I met his human self first and then his fursona. For him, he was the same whether he was his fursona or human self. As he always told me, "What you see is what you get. I am just a dog." I love that he is still the same no matter what. I am the same way. I couldn't be something I'm not.

I know a few years back someone wanted me to play a male on FM. I laughed and said, "Yeah, right! I couldn't even begin to be something I wasn't!"

So, I am also "What you see is what you get." In character or out.

Benjamin · « **Reply #3 on:** July 01, 2003, 12:19:32 pm »

Hmm... Well, with the girl that I'm currently dating, it's basically a matter that we've got a lot in common. She doesn't really have a fursona as those of us here are known for, since she's not so much into the furry fandom, but this stuff appeals to her at least. She's big into lions and The Lion King, which is an important thing for us to have in common, since those things are big interests for each of us. We've got other similarities in our lives and enough contrasts to keep things interesting. When we talk online, we talk as ourselves and have no real ICness... which is good. That happens since she doesn't really have a separate online personality of her own in the first place.
Every relationship has it's own different recipe for how it works, so I'd expect to see a lot of variation in this discussion.

Benjamin

Patrick Rangerwolf · « **Reply #4 on:** July 01, 2003, 12:42:45 pm »

I agree with everyone esp with Kada-Ru. I am no frills. What you see is what you get. When you talk to me online, you are talking to the real thing, in character or human with one small exception. When you speak to Rangerwolf, you are talking to a younger version of myself. What I would prefer to be. That is the only clear difference between me. the human and me, the furry.

grasper · « **Reply #5 on:** July 01, 2003, 12:48:46 pm »

Alough i agree with jadnar about me and my fursona being one and the same, i do act a litle differently online then i do in real life.

Patrick Rangerwolf · « **Reply #6 on:** July 01, 2003, 12:52:04 pm »

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Alough i agree with jadnar about me and my fursona being one and the same, i do act a litle differently online then i do in real life.

I find that I am very friendly in both real life and online. I can also be very shy but more so in RL. I'm a little more comfortable sometimes when I hide behind my character, which I tend to do online and sometimes in real life.

Manethran · « **Reply #7 on:** July 01, 2003, 12:55:16 pm »

Depends on the gender of the one I'm attracted to. Male and Female have different draws to me. With a female I like the smaller girls that I can feel good protecting (cliche I know). With a male I like the strong dominant types. Someone that can protect me and possibly over power me.

Rikimaru · « **Reply #8 on:** July 01, 2003, 01:01:45 pm »

normally i try to act myself but im a little more shy in real life than i am on the net. wen i chat to people im extremely open which is still an understtement. but in real life i tend to just talk wheneva im talked to. o well, ce la vie

Kada-Ru · « **Reply #9 on:** July 01, 2003, 02:42:29 pm »

I think I need to clear up something I said. When I stated that I have met furolks online that were different in RL I meant in personality.

We all are some what different on-line than off. I know I am more out going etc on-line because it is safe but the person is still me as those also have stated above.

I have met some furs on-line that were sweet as could be but once met in RL, WATCH OUT! I wouldn't want as friends in RL.

That is the type of difference I am talking about. Like two different people in two different worlds. Really scary.

I know I used to chat with this one character on FM a fews year back and I have told WS about him. The guy was nice on-line but he gave me the willies. I told WS I was glad this guy didn't live in the states because I had a bad feeling he would be a serious/dangerous stalker!

So, meeting folks on-line can some times be dangerous. These are the types of differences I was talking about. Sorry I didn't make myself more clear.

Zero · « **Reply #10 on:** July 01, 2003, 05:55:26 pm »

From my point of view it would have to be the RL side of things.
I'm very shy of new people in RL so anyone I haven't met before will have to push to get any conversation out of me.
I put that down to on-line chat isn't face to face conversation, which makes a shy furson easy to be open.
Even though I'm shy, I'm the same guy in and out of char.

Schizo_Wolf · « **Reply #11 on:** July 01, 2003, 07:36:04 pm »

I have the same point of view as Jadnar.
I love my mate as a whole. Fursona and person.
I don't think it's healthy to fall for only a fragment of what makes up somebody.

Drake Blackpaw · « **Reply #12 on:** July 01, 2003, 07:51:43 pm »

I seem to fit right along with everyone else here. My fursona is essentially me. Different background, and better in some areas than my RL self, but it's me.

My wife and I met before I became part of the fandom. So I can definitely say I fell in love with the RL person.

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Drake

Manethran · « **Reply #13 on:** July 01, 2003, 07:54:45 pm »

I agree with a lot of what has been said too. Me in RL and Me in IC are too closely intertwined to be seperated.

WhiteShepherd · « **Reply #14 on:** July 01, 2003, 10:47:14 pm »

I find it interesting concept of RL vs VR persona. Thing is everyone I have ever met unless roll playing has said they were the same VR as RL.

Some are. But from my experience about 80% of the time there is a dramatic diffrence between the furson you know online and the same furrson RL. There is so much that is often not seen. Take into account that a LOT of fursons try to portray what there mate wants so they themselves can get the mate they want.

Myself I spent a year in a online relationship befor moving in with a mate to be told everything he told me was a lie. He said, "It's VR it's not the same." Like I should of known better for trusting him.

I have had so many fur friends that the same has happened to them. They meet someone online and get them to move in only to find out they are being used. Just a little sage advice. Get plenty of RL experience before moving someone in or in with someone. Some fursons do express there true selves. But more often than not to much is not known by just VR.

WhiteShepherd

« **Reply #15 on:** July 01, 2003, 11:39:42 pm »

Easily put, if your looking for love from a soul the person, no matter what raace or mentality they are, will find a match someplace. If your love is for them being a Furrie...so be it...

I am indifferent about male or female, black or white...if they share love for me and I feel love for them then there is a bond.

A better question to pose would be:

Does it really matter if they are a Furrie if you love them?

Patrick Rangerwolf · « **Reply #16 on:** July 02, 2003, 07:53:59 am »

Quote (MidnightDragon @ July 01 2003, 11:39 pm)

A better question to pose would be:

Does it really matter if they are a Furrie if you love them?

That is a very good point, and a very realistic one.

Firebreath · « **Reply #17 on:** July 02, 2003, 08:03:19 am »

Again, I try to act the same online as I do IRL.
Although I'm more shy in my "live" version of my own self, I do tend to act fairly identically.
And I always had a saying that "I don't do online what I wouldn't do IRL", except for RPing. That's something that can be excused.
But when I'm chatting with people and everything, I try to stay the same.

And about my mate, we met at a local furmeet and it was my first contact with him. I was nearly instantly attracted to the guy, since he's so [censored] sexay! XD
But I tried to stay "true" with him, and it worked, as he doesn't like me for my online persona, but really for who I am. Because, IMHO, our online avatars are still just a facade of who we really are and it's quite easy to filter information as much as we want, giving as little as we want about ourselves.

Because the only thing that I am online that's not true IRL is the part where I'm so much more enegeetic online. Reason being that I'm a tired creature, thanks to my lack of sleep, and my body is having trouble keeping up. -_^
But ask Ben, who met me once, as well as Firestorm and BabyT and Prplhaze, I'm not that far from my online fursona in the flesh. *grins*

Patrick Rangerwolf · « **Reply #18 on:** July 02, 2003, 08:30:47 am »

The online version and the real version of me are one in the same, with the only exception is that the online fursona is a teen while the RL me is 35. I hope that anyone (esp a future mate) that meets me in RL says that the friendly Rangerwolf personality is there for all to see.

grasper · « **Reply #19 on:** July 02, 2003, 11:45:02 am »

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Does it really matter if they are a Furrie if you love them?

This is intresting, but for me i think the awnser is no, The only requirement would be to appreciate and respect my lifesyle.

As for the personality online stuff, Me and my fursona are very close if not the same, mentally. But its hard not to be different online, ever when not rping, I mean im guilty of sneaking in a *floofsnuggle* every once in a while when im chatting on AIM or whatever, but is that wrong because i dont have a tail IRL? I dont think so.

Jadnar · « **Reply #20 on:** July 02, 2003, 12:07:31 pm »

Have to be furry? No. Would I like him/her to be furry? Ya.

Mostly so I don't drive them crazy or anything over the furry stuff, lol.

Though at the moment, that question is kinda irrelevent to me. ^_^ My mate is my mate, Who they are is who they are. Love them for who they are. As Schiz' put it elegently...

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I love my mate as a whole. Fursona and person.

I agree fully, and I live it.

grasper · « **Reply #21 on:** July 02, 2003, 12:10:49 pm »

*giggles to himself*

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zackary_rainheart · « **Reply #22 on:** July 02, 2003, 03:34:32 pm »

Humm.. My mate doesn't have to be a furry when i find them.. but I think it would deffently be best for them to be.. mainly because as Jadner said.. I wouldn't drive them crazy with how much i talk about being one. *grins* Also it would be easyer to go to a con if I knew thay would be comeing with me to it.. and thay would actually have fun at it!
As to being who I am online and off are pretty much the same.. thoue like most I can be a bit shyer in RL or with people I knoe in RL...thue with some i know RL I'm shyer online then in person.. cause its just easyer to convey some feelings and Ideas face to face then it is to try and type them. But still I am who I am both.. Unless I'm RPing in one of those D&D or Legend of Zelda Groups I'm a member of on yahoo.

MadDawg276 · « **Reply #23 on:** July 04, 2003, 04:49:38 am »

I'm pretty much the same as I am here except for a little bit more shy and less talkitive. I can be a bit mean.

As for me having a mate It wouldn't matter if they where furry or not. Just finding one is hard enough...

MadDawg276

Ecco · « **Reply #24 on:** July 04, 2003, 06:32:59 am »

My fursona is made up of my dominant feelings at the time....when Im very happy...Im fully cat-like...Im just normal, then Im bi-pedal....when Im pissed, Im a 10 ft Jhovall....
Im only IC during RPG's and such....my fursona is just the 'extreame side' Im always OC when engaged in outside RPG events.
So I can't say Im attracted to the fursona at all. Im always attracted to the person who is natural..and themself...