You either have it or you don't. Some people just aren't appealing to others that way. Saying that because I'm rather appalling to people in that way.. The 4 hugs I've had as as adult (1 in 2003, 1 in 2008, and 2 this past Thursday - I'm a veteran..) have all been fairly forced (someone told them to and they did it reluctantly) and extremely quick and meaningless. =\ I've tried everything myself. There is just no changing it. It's chemistry, and its part of you.