I don't mind about the icons - sure, it's nice to be proud of being transgendered, especially as I don't consider myself "wholly female" or male, either. It's annoying, however, that modern society as it stands still believes the world is "black or white" so, given this, I would still classify myself as "female" despite most people considering me male anyway. It's my own little rebellion.
I am still considering surgery, but it's early days and I may just remain transvestite and cross-gendered.