How do I admit I'm a furry?

[Vynlamor Nightshade]

I've recently told my best friend i was a furry, i haven't gotten around to telling anyone else (even my parents), barely had the guts to tell him...

[Avan]

Yeah, that would be fine if we were all ungulates. Sorry(not really), but we're not.

I don't think it even would be fine if we were all ungulates because... we'd be ungulates... XD

[Sigurd Volsung]

I've recently told my best friend i was a furry, i haven't gotten around to telling anyone else (even my parents), barely had the guts to tell him...

I happen to know how these conversations went and I am happy to announce that went well. Turns out that his friend is a scalie. And his parents had absolutely no problems and his dad may be willing to take him to a con next year. One thing that may have helped that a greymuzzle, namely me, was willing to talk to them about the fandom, didn't have to but I was on Skype ready to talk. I must say that I am happy that his parents took an active role in finding out what he is into if only more parents were like this I think we'd be living in a better world.

My advice to all young furs out there who are worried to talk to their parents about their furrieness find someone who is willing to talk to them on your behalf. And to you greymuzzles out there be willing to help the pups.

[Minokyoko]

*meow*
thats good to know it all went well. 

[Rocket T. Coyote]

Nothing unusual about enjoying comics, cartoons and stories featuring animal characters. That stuff has been around for decades, centuries in some cases. Like Aesop's Fables.

[Goobladon]

<--- noobie putting in his two cents

There really isn't anything to admit

Its just stuff you like to do... Hobbies kind of. No reason to blurt out to everyone with some pent up furry pride thing like its a big deal. Its a big deal to us, but I'm sure looking at rocks is a big deal to a geologist but they don't run around with geologist pride T-shirts or something trying to make a bigger deal out of it.

[Avan]

There really isn't anything to admit

Your first post is made of epic and win.

[Goobladon]

There really isn't anything to admit

Your first post is made of epic and win.

Why thank you 

My day has been made

[redyoshi49q]

There really isn't anything to admit

Your first post is made of epic and win.

Speaking of your first post...

Have you considered making an introduction thread to introduce yourself?

[Goobladon]

Speaking of your first post...

Have you considered making an introduction thread to introduce yourself?

I shall do so now 

[Arbutus]

Its a big deal to us, but I'm sure looking at rocks is a big deal to a geologist but they don't run around with geologist pride T-shirts or something trying to make a bigger deal out of it.

You got me curious....

http://www.cafepress.co.uk/+geologist-pride+dog_tees

[Avan]

Speaking of your first post...

Have you considered making an introduction thread to introduce yourself?

I shall do so now 

That was redyoshi who said that >.>

[Mooshi]

HOW TO ADMIT YOU ARE A FURRY

Step 1) Think of the worst case scenerio and act as if it already happened.

Step 2) Pace back and forth worrying as if your life depended on it.

Step 3) Take at least 2 weeks of looking for non-trolling answers on the internet for at least 18 hours each day.

Step 4) Disregard anything negative on the internet even if they claim to be a furry as they are obviously trolls themselves.

Step 5) Look up how to get on Jerry Springer or any other popular talk show.

Step 6) Trick your parents (or whoever you are telling) by saying you entered a contest and have free tickets for a vacation/holiday.

Step 7) Make up a believeable lie that the talk show was part of an exclusive tour package.

Step 8 ) Pace around nervously backstage while playing with the fruit basket from catering.

Step 9) Act as if you're about to die as you tell your parents ect. that you really brought them here because you have something important to tell them.

Step 10) Make as big a deal as you can out of it, it lets them know how serious it really is.

Step 11) Get on stage in front of an audience making a spectical out of yourself in front of millions world wide.

Step 12) Pull out a fursuit head dramatically, put it on slowly for suspense and say "We're here we're queer get used to it!" "I'm a furry."

The 12 easy steps on how to properly tell someone you're a furry.

[Avan]

13) Use ctrl+Z to go all the way back to step 0 and start with Step 1b instead/.
1b) Buy yourself your favorite food.
2b) eat it.
3b) Feel good, and have fun.
4b) remember to not use

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8) when making a list on a forum that has that for a smilie

[Mooshi]

Already fixed it. You know you snickered at it. >.>

[Kobuk]

Step 14. Skip Mooshi's multi-step process, Play Monopoly, Pass GO and collect $200, then use this link here: http://www.anthrocon.org/about-furry

[Avan]

I liked my process better, because you don't even have to bother 'admitting' anything
(oh, and you get food!)

[Lynk]

That list made me laugh, even though I've actually done 1-3 before...

[Serra Belvoule]

Alternative steps for mooshi's step-athlon: Choke on a mattress and claim it was because being unaccepted for who you are.
Sue your parents for mental anguish.

[Goobladon]

Speaking of your first post...

Have you considered making an introduction thread to introduce yourself?

I shall do so now  

That was redyoshi who said that >.>

Lol my bad, noobie can't get quoting done right
----

Plus, I'm glad everything worked out Siberian

[Onion]

Why is there a need to admit anything?   

When you admit something. It useally means you have a problem or guilt to explain.

I feel that I am who I am and there is nothing unnatural about that. I dont have to admit anything to anyone. Id just like to enjoy life.

A wise old friend once told me. "What others think about me, is none of my business". Dont worry about others, you yourself desirve your acceptance more then anyone else.

Thats my advice on the matter. 

[Blackwolf359]

My only concern on this matter is my mom tends to over react and all she knows about furries she learned from a certain CSI episode... The closest I've ever come to telling her I was a furry involved me using the xkcd web comic as a way of covering it and then when she said it was a bunch of people who dressed up like animals and did...stuff, I responded by mentioning that some Trekies do the same sorts of things. I found the rest of our talk quite amusing. Here's an approximation of the dialog (some parts I've forgotten to much of to approximate with any level of accuracy and so I left them out):

Mom: Well yes. Trekies are maybe one step above them.
Wolf (no its not my real name but I prefer to not disclose that information): ...Nice to know you have such a high opinion of me.
Mom: ...
Mom: Huh?
Wolf: How many times have I been called a Treky? Let me think here...
Mom: Well you know what I mean. <<insert some excuse saying I'm basically just weird and she loves me anyway>>
Wolf: Quit trying to change the subject! You think I suck!
Mom: Well come on! They dress up-
Wolf: <<something I forgot>>
Mom: Well it was that whole CSI episode...
Wolf: So because it was on TV makes it true? <<some witty comment that I'm pretty sure involved "Beam me up Scotty!">>

She dug her hole deeper after that.

Note: I said all this while trying to not laugh. I swear I respect my mom and don't say things like this with the intent of hurting her in any way. She did seem to find it a little funny and she didn't take anything I said personally (though she was left rather baffled by my telling her what I knew of the fandom).

However I think I have started to babble. So at the risk of saying a botched version of the same thing as several other people who are far wiser than me have already said, I have just one last thing to add:

Be yourself. I've been howling, growling, acting like a wolf off and on for most of my life. Not one person has ever ask "Are you a furry or something?" and I doubt anyone will soon. I'm not saying no one will suspect you of being a furry no matter what but I guarantee that if you don't try to act like something your not you'll feel a lot better about yourself. No matter what people think of you.

[Serra Belvoule]

Why is there a need to admit anything?  

That's exactly my point... but apparently it's something we need to "come clean" about.
I don't think anyone goes around saying "Oh, by the way, I'm into -say- bdsm."

[Mr. Apple]

I'm in the process of preping my parents. pretty much just exposing them to the fandom without directly associating myself to it. I talk about "this forum i'm on" and funny things that happen on it that they can relate to. I started wearing a collar type thing around my neck and the reason i gave is that i did it for one of my facebook/youtube videos to look crazy but i actually like it. I started joking around about getting a real dog collar not too long ago. but, one thing you always need to keep in mind is that you don't "need" to tell your parents you are a furry if its going to screw up your life. Then again, your in 9th grade (like mah) and this is considered your rebellious stage in life so you could probably get away with a lot. Good luck and always remember to be patient, and you don't need to if you don't want to.

[MWBrantley]

The biggest problem I've noticed about furrydom (even given my noob condition) is the myopic misperception that the public at large seems to have. Like with steampunk (another movement of which I consider myself a part), the diversity seems to be the most inconvenient aspect for teh public to grasp, and thus the most ignored by said public. Over at Brass Goggles (the steampunk forum), I read posts all the time from people who keep running into a brick wall of, well, oversimplification, to be blunt.

If it isn't simple, packaged, and easily purchased at Hot Topic or Spencer, the majority of the public fail to understand, and thus tend to revile the thing they're looking at. I keep reading  the same general sentiment over and over again, that "The general public is composed mainly of people who think that rebellion is something that can be purchased at the mall."  You can't buy many (or in my town, any) fursuits in the mall... Thus, furries are evil and not to be trusted, especially not around children. (grrrr...)

(the essence of steampunk, many steamers agree, is at least in part a spirit of rebellion against the status quo. It is not the only reason, but one of the many reasons, why we wear the goggles, weskits, and bowlers/toppers/trilbies/homburgs/newsboys/etc., after all.)


I'm not sure how much a part of furrydom rebellion might be. The potential seems to exist, however...