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Offline Romance Addict

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« on: September 28, 2004, 08:03:41 pm »
Reciently my girlfriend left me because im a furry.

She called it un-natural, un-biblical (i dont know how the bible plays into furry, but anyway) and that it was totally wrong. I found out that she dispised everything about it, including the art and that she had surpressed her feelings about it for quite sometime, but now it was too much for her.

And so i must ask other furs out in the fandom:

Have you lost any friendships (friends/family/anyone) due to the fact that you are a furry?
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« Reply #1 on: September 28, 2004, 08:17:13 pm »
Er, no, but mostly cause I dont have, didnt have a mate as a furry. I just wanna say that I have come accross nothing unbiblical about it myself.

sorry bout that, I cant know how you feal, but Ive been dumped before, and know what that much feals like.




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« Reply #2 on: September 28, 2004, 08:27:20 pm »
Sorry to hear that. '<img'>

No, nothing like this has ever happened to me since I'm not open about my furriness at all. But if she doesn't accept that this is a part of you, I guess it was for the best that she left. And I have also heard of nothing unbiblical about being a furry necessarily; unless you take it as far as beastiality anyways.

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« Reply #3 on: September 28, 2004, 08:30:17 pm »
*Hugs Romance addict* I'm sorry to hear someone you had feelings for turned out to be so closed minded ':cry:' .

I've never had this happen to me (I told my boyfriend, and he doesn't mind at all) but i've heard of it happeneing to other people.

I hope you feel better about this soon, sorry I wasn't able to give much input. Abe's right, at least now you'll be able to move on and find someone out there who loves you for who you are, fur and all.
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« Reply #4 on: September 28, 2004, 08:47:50 pm »
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*Hugs Romance addict* I'm sorry to hear someone you had feelings for turned out to be so closed minded ':cry:' .

thanks
Im fine about it all, but i just thought it was a bit crazy that she came out and made such a big deal about it.

as far as getting over all this, im not seeing too much of a problem (although finding faith in romantic or close relationships might be a little harder to gain)
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« Reply #5 on: September 28, 2004, 08:54:28 pm »
*hugs*   Sorry to hear about her leaving, but think of it this way- if she couldn't love you for you, then it's better you find out now than after it's too late.
   I've been being pretty open lately living a furry lifestyle, and so far the results have been positive. The only one I've discussed furry with outright is the one at work that I wrote about in The Dreaded Conversation, and that wasn't to say I was a fur as it much as it was to correct her misconception of what furry is. She hasn't brought it up outright, but she has since mentioned some furry websites she's looked at in passing conversation.
   My family and friends know my entire house and yard are decorated with animal fiquires and pictures everywhere, that I wear a fox tail off my helmet on the scoot (that got my families attention, but they wouldn't mention it until I brought it up!'<img'>, and after this weekend that now I'm making a fursuit (four people already knew about that). They haven't seen my artwork or stories yet, those I'm not ready to share- a few deal with a non-furry fetish that I don't want them to know about-, tho I will soon let my one friend and his wife read the book I'm working on. No-one has had a problem that I'm aware of, they all still come over as they always have, and we still have our get-togethers every couple of weeks.
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« Reply #6 on: September 29, 2004, 12:23:12 pm »
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Quote (Rune @ Sep. 29 2004, 8:30 am)
*Hugs Romance addict* I'm sorry to hear someone you had feelings for turned out to be so closed minded ':cry:' .

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Im fine about it all, but i just thought it was a bit crazy that she came out and made such a big deal about it.

as far as getting over all this, im not seeing too much of a problem (although finding faith in romantic or close relationships might be a little harder to gain)

Sorry this happenned, but good to hear that you are able to move on and be alright with it.

Don't let her reaction get you down on close relationships.  Even though it hurts to feel betrayed by someone who is close, the experience of having a close relationship is often worth any pain experienced.

In the future, I would reveal your furry nature to someone you are interested in early on in the relationship.  This way it will have less of an impact if they decide they don't like it.  Plus, it gives it the sense of it being somthing bad, if you have to hide it from someone you are getting close to.

There are many open minded females out there, and I'm certain there is one out there waiting for you.

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« Reply #7 on: September 30, 2004, 03:41:52 am »
Aw, sorry to hear that...

I usually joke about that fact that I'm a furry fandomer, 100%. As an example, if I'm out with my friends, I see a squirrel running down from a tree, point at it and loudly shout "YIFF!" my friends just crack laughing. I think it just makes me more individual, I'm happy that I know I'm not a copy of others.
So I've never lost a friend/close person because of my furryness. It's just a pity that some ppl don't get the whole thing, what is this all about.
Though I've only heard things of being a furry there, at the other side of atlantic ocean. o.o
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« Reply #8 on: September 30, 2004, 02:02:53 pm »
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Don't let her reaction get you down on close relationships.  Even though it hurts to feel betrayed by someone who is close, the experience of having a close relationship is often worth any pain experienced.

In the future, I would reveal your furry nature to someone you are interested in early on in the relationship.  This way it will have less of an impact if they decide they don't like it.  Plus, it gives it the sense of it being somthing bad, if you have to hide it from someone you are getting close to.

There are many open minded females out there, and I'm certain there is one out there waiting for you.

Well i will take your advice on not letting her faze my outlook on close relationships, however im a person who really dosnt play around with relationships and puts 110% into them.

Actualy i did tell her that i was a furry, when we got together, but ill make sure to be mroe clear about it in the fututre.

I do not feel any sort of regret of the fact that i am a furry and nothings gonna change that.
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« Reply #9 on: September 30, 2004, 05:33:09 pm »
Sorry that happend.

I havnt had anything like that happen because i pretty much hide it all atm, but if i lost anyone over it i wouldnt really care, its their problem not mine.

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« Reply #10 on: October 03, 2004, 06:41:44 am »
Sorry things didn't work out for you. But it may be a good thing, coz neither one of you could be happy, right? Maybe there's someone out there who'll understand or may even be part of the fandom and you'll be happier. '<img'> Good luck!
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« Reply #11 on: October 03, 2004, 11:46:36 am »
Quote (peaches @ Oct. 03 2004, 6:41 pm)
Maybe there's someone out there who'll understand or may even be part of the fandom and you'll be happier. '<img'> Good luck!

Im sure there is and actualy, because of this happening, ive become more open with being a furry as well as being proud of it '<img'>
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« Reply #12 on: October 05, 2004, 07:23:27 am »
Quote (Romance Addict @ Sep. 28 2004, 8:03 pm)
Reciently my girlfriend left me because im a furry.

She called it un-natural, un-biblical (i dont know how the bible plays into furry, but anyway) and that it was totally wrong. I found out that she dispised everything about it, including the art and that she had surpressed her feelings about it for quite sometime, but now it was too much for her.

And so i must ask other furs out in the fandom:

Have you lost any friendships (friends/family/anyone) due to the fact that you are a furry?

':blush:'  I think that is amuseing.... Don't get me wrong it is sad that she left you so easy. However I find this terribly ironic that it was said to be unnatural when we are much closer to nature them most people. I find it funny that haveing a passion for nature is "Unbiblical". Tell me... Are you a spirtual furry? You know... do you have a kindred spirt or belive to be imbuned with the spirt of your totem? Im curious.

 As for your question though.... Yes... I have lost people in my life because I am a furry. Being furry is part of me being me though... If they don't accept it I don't want them in my life. I am not going to be someone else just for them. That is selfish on there part to ask that of me.

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« Reply #13 on: October 05, 2004, 10:22:33 pm »
It's just me, but if I found my partner was abusing the Bible like that -- using it illogically to align with their personal beliefs or fears of what they don't understand -- I'd be better off without her as a partner.  My time would be better spent trying to educate her of the errors of that logic, and the hate it has brought about already.

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« Reply #14 on: October 06, 2004, 08:14:48 am »
*hugs* Sorry to hear that, R.A. !!

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« Reply #15 on: November 26, 2004, 09:38:51 pm »
*Leaves a huggle even though it's way late*

Yup.  Have alienated friends/family/ex-fiance by their finding out.

No matter.  They don't like me as I am, then I didn't need 'em anyway.  '<img'>
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